“What we are is God's gift to us. What we become is our gift to God.”
* Take responsibility for your life. When you take responsibility for your life and your choices, and you give yourself permission to become self-validating, you no longer seek nor need validation from anyone else.
According to Robert Fritz, author of The Path of Least Resistance, you create structures in your life through your desires, beliefs, assumptions, aspirations, and objective reality itself. He looks at two basic principles: One is that human beings act in accordance with the underlying structure in their lives. We are part of nature and are ruled by the same natural laws.
The second principle is: Some structures are more useful than others in leading to desired results.
Robert Fritz concludes that structure is nothing personal. Someone in a structure that leads to pain, frustration, and hopelessness is not being designated by the universe as a victim of life.
* Be honest with yourself. When you lie to yourself or misrepresent the truth in any way, you increase the stress on your body. After years of misrepresenting your true wants, the increasing stress can lead to health problems.
* Know you can be better, belief in yourself. Align yourself with your true purpose - being a child of God.
* Don’t treat others like they are you (everybody is different).
* Don’t treat everybody the same (different personalities respond in a different way to certain words and actions).
* Be a good example. When you show humility and humbleness, you become empowered.
Everybody has a choice – between stimulus and response there is a choice. The fact is that you are where you are because that’s what you have chosen (even if it is unconsciously). You can do amazing things with your life, but nobody else can change your situation for you. It’s entirely up to you.
Part of self-acceptance is releasing other people’s opinions. You are meant to be different. Your fingerprints are unique. When you can accept this uniqueness, then there is no competition and no comparison. Your value comes from God -- unique, divine, and eternal.
Self-acceptance is the main key to positive changes in every area of your life.
Accept others for who they are
* Allow them to be themselves. Les Giblin in his timely book: How to Have Confidence and Power in Dealing with People, suggests that acceptance is like a vitamin. We all hunger to be accepted as we are. We want someone to relax with. Someone we can let our hair down and take our shoes off with. Very few of us are brave enough to “be ourselves” completely when dealing with the world in general. He concludes that people who accept people, and like them just as they are, have the most influence in changing the other person’s behavior for the better.
* Don’t expect people to be perfect or wait for them to change before you can like them.
* Create interdependence (we need each other to succeed). It’s interesting to note that the kinder you are to others, the better you feel about yourself.
* Critizers and complainers don’t want to take responsibility for their own situation.
* Practice the Golden Rule. By doing unto others as you would have them do unto you, you’ll find that your life begins to work, and the things that you desire to have in your life will begin to appear. Be living according to the Golden Rule you will find that all things are possible. It’s by working through the heart rather than through the head that true power is found.
* Live and let live, in other words: to accept other people as they are, although they may have a different way of life.
Accept your circumstances
* Accept your reality but don’t forget your dream.
* Excuses and reasons for not succeeding create victimhood.
* Victimhood comes from blame.
* Stop resisting your destiny. Acceptance is a form of humility which stops you from resisting.
* Look for challenges, they make you stronger. In every adversary there is an equivalent blessing and reward.
Accepting the problem changes the nature of the problem. Now the problem is no longer an obstacle but a stepping stone.
* Stop waiting for the arrival of an ideal day. Enjoy the ups and downs of every day. The present moment is the only time you can be happy because it is the only time that exists.
Acceptance will put you in touch with a finer reality. It will bring you in touch with your true self which is God. Through the grace of God you can change your life. You can go beyond the past, by living in the NOW and create a brand-new future. By accepting yourself at the core you live in the presence of the most high.