Monday, March 28, 2011

ABC's of Clear Decision Making

This article is not about strategies  for better decision making. 
I want to take a more internal approach.  I observed that most of our decisions are based on emotions, either love or fear.  Obviously, we are not aware of this underlying influence.  None-the-less, if you want to make wise decisions, which really advance you as a human being be watchful of your motivation.  Love decisions benefit others and also yourself.  By focusing on positive intentions, even if the temporary result is not to your liking, the ultimate result will bring wellbeing.  With fear decisions you want advantage, dominion, revenge or play on your jealousy or shame.   The result will always be division: awareness of race, religion, nationality, and whatever else makes people appear different.
A – Acceptance
The opposite of acceptance is apathy. It is not only necessary to accept the other person or circumstance but paying attention to them. Your willingness to accept the other is based on a decision.

“Some people confuse acceptance with apathy, but there's all the difference in the world. Apathy fails to distinguish between what can and what cannot be helped; acceptance makes that distinction. Apathy paralyzes the will-to-action; acceptance frees it by relieving it of impossible burdens.”
~ Arthur Gordon

B – Belief
In all of history nobody had ever broken the record of running one mile in less than 4 minutes, until Roger Bannister broke the record because of his belief.

C – Choice
I belief it is man’s greatest gift to have choices. That puts us above all of the creatures in the universe. It is also an awesome responsibility, because we have the choice to act on our fears.

D – Destiny is not a matter of chance, rather a choice – take action, even small steps can make a difference toward what you really want in life.

"Great things are not done by impulse but by a series of small things brought together."
~ Vincent Van Gogh

E – Emotional Release
The Emotion Code  is a powerful release method because it helps to make a decision to let go of emotional baggage.  I like to encourage everybody to look into this book by Dr. Bradley Nelson.  He explains how we all have emotional memories which are dragging us down and cause problems in life.

F – Focus
Choosing selective concentration helps to make better decisions. With a clear focus we can even “move mountains.” Or is it with a strong faith? It is the definiteness of either, which will bring us the desired result. As long as we focus only on our physical strength, we only get tired. With the spiritual input, focus makes us unstoppable.

G – Gratitude
Gratitude  is a virtue but it is also an attitude, because we can decide to be grateful even in the most difficult circumstances.

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity.... It turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.”
~ Melodie Beattie, Author

H – Happiness
Happiness  is a choice; we can decide to be happy. Happiness is not depending on external circumstances rather how we feel inside.

I – Intention
By deciding on a certain intention, a goal can be reached more successfully. Once a specific purpose is decided upon, the result will come based on the intention. It is quite liberating, because that way we are not focused on the result but rather on the process.

J – Joy
Joy is an emotion which follows the fulfillment of desire; blessed are those who can find the source of joy within themselves, rather through external stimulation.

“I cannot do great things, but I can do small things with GREAT LOVE.”

~ Mother Teresa

K – Kindness
Being kind is a general act of goodwill. Something that doesn’t cost a penny; it can be as little as a smile or a friendly word. Being generous in kindness is the best reward for yourself because it makes you feel good, too.

L – Letting Go
I was listening to an interview with Hale Dwoskin from the Sedona Method  the other night. He explained that letting go is as easy as looking at a pen in your hand and deciding to let it fall to the ground. Just let it go. It is a decision. And so it can be with emotions, thought process and undesirable habits. With willingness even the most stubborn subconscious mind has to co-operate.

M – Manors
Manors are based on certain habits we adapt to throughout our lives. If we can accept certain disciplines when we are young (hopefully our parents are enforcing discipline), our manors can be pleasant and acceptable to others. Fortunately, we are never too old to change our habits and with that, create better manors.

O – Optimism
Optimism is positive expectation. With an upbeat attitude, even the darkest day can be an experience. The optimist finds the good in everything and beliefs that in every difficulty or disaster one can still find something pleasant.

P – Patience
Patience takes discipline. Discipline is difficult to learn. With the skill of discipline life becomes easier to handle.

R – Responsibility
Humans are the only creature who can be responsible. Only spiritual beings have the “ability to respond.”

S – Serving others
If we could define the human purpose in three words, it would be “serving each other.” Everything in the universe is base on relationships. Nobody can live alone, or be fulfilled alone. Only in relationship to each other can we find true fulfillment.

T – Trust
Trust is deeper than faith. It takes knowing and experience to trust: God and people.

U – Understanding
Decide to understand others and your relationships will flourish. Literally, understanding means “standing under” someone. It takes humility to do that.

V -Value 

What do you stand for? What are your core values? Decision making is very much based on how you determine what is important or not. Do you value integrity, family, faith, fidelity, traditions, etc.?

W – Willingness
Every decision starts with the willingness to engage, to act, to continue, or to pursue. 
I hope I could shed some different light on the power of decision making.  We are spiritual human beings.  In order to advance and grow in life, we need to focus on spiritual principles and values.  Whatever we are focusing on will multiply.  Our world is full of fear and despair, let’s bring about more love.

"The size of your success is determined by the size of your belief."
~ David Joseph Schwartz


Yusun said...

i love this post... especially the clear advice and practical guidlines to decision make... spelled out by the abc's of life. "motivation" is another good word for "m," when it comes to decision making... when faced with a difficult decision where there is no right or wrong answer, we often have to check our motivation. thanks for the insight!

RaySolution said...

Thanks for your suggestion, Yusun. I am sure, there are other attributes yet to add to the list. I might want to revise it someday.