Monday, September 3, 2012

How to Love Oneself

As I was preparing for my blog to be published on Monday I received the news that the one person who taught me how to love myself had passed to the spiritual world.  My life-long spiritual teacher, the Rev. Sun Myung Moon, has ascended on Sunday, September 02, 2012 (Korea time Monday morning 9-3-12) after weeks of illness.  Considering his age of 93, it was still a shock and will take some time to digest and mourn. 

Rev. Moon has impacted my life profoundly.  He has taught me the love of God as a parent and has been a guiding example together with his wife; in fact we call them the “True Parents.”  Knowing that God loves me, has giving me confidence, raised my self-esteem, and has shown me how to be responsible for my life and ultimately for my destiny.

Only in the love of God can we find acceptance, peace and success.  In that experience we discover our true self, learn all the lessons we are here on earth to learn and can share this love with others.


“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”

Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment.  And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

~ Matthew 22:36-40


How do we learn to love ourselves?

First, I have to know who I am.  I am the child of God, a spiritual being here on earth to learn to love.  I have divine, unique and cosmic value.  My spirit is eternal and indestructible.  I have nothing to fear.

Man has been living in ignorance about his true origin; and therefore, has been conditioned by fear to feel unworthy, weak, and unloved.  Rev. Moon teaches about the breach of humans in the Divine Principle.




“I was teaching them the motto that I had followed as a young man, which was ‘Before seeking to rule the universe, first perfect your ability to rule yourself.’  America had great wealth and had become obsessed with material goods.  I stood in the midst of this material civilization and talked about matters of the mind and heart.  The mind cannot be seen with the eye or held in the hand.  Yet, we clearly are ruled by our minds.  Without our minds, we are nothing.  Then I talked about true love, God-centered love, which should guide the mind.  I said that true freedom can be enjoyed only when we have a clear understanding of ourselves based on the foundation of true love and are able to exercise self-control.

I taught them the value of labor.  Labor is not suffering but creation.  The reason a person can work all his life and be happy is that labor is connected to God’s world.  The labor that people perform is nothing more than taking things that God created and shaping them in different ways.  If you think that you are making something to give to God as a memento, then labor is not something to think of in a negative way.  Many young people were so steeped in the affluent life provided to them by their materialistic civilization that they didn’t know the joy of working.  So I taught them to work with joy.”

From the biography of Rev. Moon “As a Peace-Loving Global Citizen”:
~ page 177-178 (Rev. Moon, Seed for a New American Revolution)


I think these words are also very appropriate for this Labor Day.  I was just reading an article by an American parent who made this observation: It all starts in the family.

Work builds confidence, self-esteem and eventually character.  Work also allows us to discover our life’s purpose.  I am grateful to the Rev. Moon for his teaching, and most of all showing me how to love myself.  Love is not only a noun but a verb which requires actions.  Our father, the Rev. Moon has been a person of action all his life and never in his wildest dream thought of “retiring.”  Now God has called him home, and I pray that he can find peace in the bosom of God while continuing his work from the heavenly realm.  His wife, Hak Ja Han Moon, our true mother, together with their children and all of us will carry on the work to build the "heavenly kingdom."  I will miss him very much.


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